This week’s post is written by my friend Dr. Jeffrey Hull whose radio show I appeared on last week. ~ Melissa

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This week’s post is written by my friend Dr. Jeffrey Hull whose radio show I appeared on last week. ~ Melissa

Birthdays are not always what we expect them to be.
Birthdays can bring up strong emotions and memories. They can remind us of wishes that have not yet been fulfilled, people who are no longer in our life, and past events that carry a high charge, either positive or negative.

When I go through periods where I spend too much time indoors, I get unbearably cranky. I start feeling fidgety, depressed, and creatively frustrated. Some days I don’t realize how lack of sunlight is affecting me until I go outside and feel the healing balm of the sun’s rays.

One of my clients recently confessed to me that she had pushed herself to the brink. She had just returned from a whirlwind business trip, and when she got home she could do nothing but lie in bed for several days. I told her that this was a classic sign of being in an exhaustion-exertion cycle.

I have an adorable little deck that I use for creative inspiration, and this morning the card I pulled said, “Fire Your Inner Critic.” I laughed when I saw that card because I knew it would give me great satisfaction to fire the part of me that wants me to perfect all the time. That part of me never wants to give me a break. It is relentlessly critical, to the point where it won’t let me do anything. It sabotages my creative impulses by questioning them to death. Every creative act gets put on the witness stand and is put through an excruciating inquisition.

Overgiving is something that women are culturally trained to do. It is so deeply ingrained in us that we often don’t know we’re doing it. It’s true that we are natural nurturers, but when we habitually sacrifice our own needs for those of others, we become physically, emotionally, and spiritually depleted.

Many of my friends and clients have been telling me that they’ve been experiencing some wacky energy lately. I certainly have been feeling it. At times, I feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me, and I have no idea what I’m standing on! With Pluto squaring Saturn, we are all receiving a major jolt, and many people are feeling disoriented, confused, and depressed. This planetary aspect pushes us to let go of anything — beliefs, behaviors, objects, commitments, relationships — that no longer serve us.

Because we live in a society that values activity (male/yang energy) more than rest (female/yin energy), we are not supported to adjust our schedules and routines to accommodate changes in our cycles. We are expected to keep going as though we were bionic, as though our cycles didn’t even exist!

Can you identify with any of these? If so, that’s good news because once you identify a problem, you can do something about it. Empowerment begins with awareness, and taking stock of your patterns is a great start. Read More→

It amazes me that in our educational system, we aren’t taught how to have healthy relationships. In my opinion, that’s why so many relationships fail. Partners lack the skills that are necessary to work though the challenges that arise.
