CONSCIOUS DATING

Are you single and dating? Do you have single friends who call you for dating advice? Here are some tips to take the stress out of dating and make it a more empowering, life-affirming experience.

1. Define the partner you want to attract. A clear vision is always a good place to begin. What qualities are attractive to you physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually?

2. Take inventory of what you have to offer. What would you bring to the relationship? Also, look at areas of potential growth. What character attributes are you seeking in a partner that you could develop for yourself?

3. Resolve unfinished business with past partners. We can move forward in a healthy way only when our energy is completely available for a new relationship. Seek counseling if you are having difficulty letting go of the past. It can be helpful to write down what you learned from each one of your relationships. See them as gifts that helped you grow.

4. Write a compelling personal ad that accurately reflects who you are, who you want to attract, and what you want in a relationship. Have a photo taken that shows you in your best light.

5. Be compassionate with yourself. Know that something can be learned from every dating experience, whether you consider it to be positive or negative. Say, "Every date brings me closer to the love of my life."

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